Leaving a Puppy Alone at Home for the First Time

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Leaving your puppy alone at home can be a very stressful experience, especially if you’re a first-time dog owner. But as much as we would like to be with our furry friends all the time, for most people, this is simply unrealistic.

This reality creates a lot of stress in many pet parents. Think about it — particularly if your puppy isn’t trained or fully housebroken, it can lead to lots of anxious thoughts while you’re working late, or enjoying a night out with friends.

It’s important to realize that canines as a group are very social animals that tend to form pack tendencies.

But even with this fact in mind, most dogs are more than able to stay by themselves for at least some amount of time without displaying anxious or unwanted behavior, such as chewing or peeing where they shouldn’t.

In this post, you’ll learn how to train your juvenile dog to be alone without experiencing the extremes of separation anxiety.

How Long Can You Leave a Puppy Alone at Home?

Realistically, the answer depends on the age of your puppy.

In general, a puppy needs a bathroom break once every hour for each month of age. This means that a 1-month-old puppy needs to relieve himself every hour, while a 5-month-old puppy can wait longer for relief.

Training your pup to use pee pads is a wonderful way to acclimate him to a schedule so that he knows there’s a safe, designated spot to relieve himself inside.

If you know you’ll be away from home a lot, don’t set your puppy up for failure, and make sure to potty him to use pee pads as soon as possible.

But bear in mind that no matter what amount of pee pads you use, or how well your dog is trained, it’s poor form indeed to leave him alone for more than 6-8 hours at a time.

With any longer of a span for real outdoor potty breaks, even the best pads may experience absorbency issues, and your pup may become insecure and possibly even destructive.

All You Need to Know About Leaving Your Puppy Alone at Home (For the First Time)

1. Spend Some Time with Him

Bonding with a new pet takes time, especially at a very young age. When you first bring your puppy home, keep in mind that he’s probably anxious at best, and outright terrified at worst.

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So don’t just pick him up, drop him off at your place, and leave a few hours later to go to work. Be sure to time it so you have at least a few days free to connect with your new best friend.

Show him around the house, and make him as comfortable as possible before leaving him alone. That way, he will have a chance to get to know you better, and also trust his new environment.

Next, do a test run; after a few days home, check how your puppy reacts when you go out and lock the door behind you. You can even wait outside for a while to get an indication of how simple (or hard) it will be to leave him on his own.

2. Take Care of His Basic Needs

You can’t expect your puppy to react well to training and bonding if his basic needs aren’t met. This means ensuring that ample food, water, warmth, and affection are available.

Before you even think of bringing a new pet home, be sure that you have the time, patience, and resources to raise him right.

Estimate your pup’s feeding requirements by looking at his food label, calculating, or consulting with a vet or pet nutritionist. Then, spread out his meals evenly throughout the day (preferably up to four times).

You can also free-feed your him, but doing so has some disadvantages. For one, he will have a hard time getting on a proper feeding schedule later on in life. In the worst-case scenario, it can lead to obesity and other health problems.

Water, on the other hand, should always be available.

3. Get Him a Comfortable Bed

Selecting a dog bed is one of the first things you should do before bringing your pup home, as this is one of the spots he will be most likely to immediately imprint upon.

Get one that’s appropriate to his size, as well as one that will make him feel as safe, secure, and comfortable as possible.

You also want to look for a product that’s waterproof, or at least machine washable. since even the best pet owners can expect to experience accidents from time to time, particularly in the puppy’s first 6 months.

RELATED: Best Waterproof Dog Beds

4. Consider a High-Quality Dog Crate

Crating is an excellent option for a puppy who experiences separation anxiety.

But aside from providing him with an area that’s associated with comfort and safety, crates can even serve a double purpose as a dog bed (as long as they’re padded and cozy).

Oftentimes, puppies will see the crate as their den, and a place to escape to when they’re anxious or need some time alone.

If that describes your pup, then there’s no question that a kennel is right for him.

RELATED: Best Dog Crate for Separation Anxiety

5. Give Him Something to Play With

No matter how cute your pup is, his tendency to chew is probably one of the most annoying problems. He will happily chew everything from your books to your shoes, and even furniture if there’s nothing else available.

Amongst the plethora of toys on the market, it’s important to be aware that a puppy has different needs than an adult canine. Similar to how human infants become cranky during teething, a young dog is no different.

Therefore, you want to seek out a toy that’s specially rated for his age. Chew toys have different textures and materials that help to provide stimulation to the gums, while minimizing discomfort.

6. Offer Him a Cold Treat

It’s known that cold helps numb sore gums. So if you have a puppy, you should always have a stuffed chew toy in your freezer.

Get one that you can freeze, and fill it with canned dog food, canned pumpkin, plain non-fat yogurt, or natural peanut butter, and throw it in the freezer.

Once needed, take out the toy, give it to your puppy, and walk away slowly. Not only does this help to soothe swollen gums, but this also helps with destructive behavior issues.

7. Set Up a Playpen

You shouldn’t let your puppy roam freely before he’s fully house trained and knows his limits. This isn’t only about convenience, but about safety as well.

Just as you want to be sure your pup doesn’t have an accident on your floor, you want to also be sure he’s not messing with electrical wires, household chemicals, or anything else that could be dangerous (more on this later).

Also, remember that as well behaved as he may be with you and your family, a protective nature is instinctual.

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Don’t let strangers suddenly approach your puppy, and take measures to put him in confinement or a separate room when unfamiliar people visit your home.

A dog playpen is an excellent solution for both of these issues.

For best results, consider leaving the playpen open most of the time. Not only will your pooch begin to recognize it as a regular part of his day to day surrounding, but he will also begin to imprint upon it as a safe space.

8. Try a Pet Gate

Another way to isolate your puppy from the rest of the house is by using a pet gate.

I talked about the importance of confinement in the previous tip, but if your pup becomes claustrophobic inside his pen, or you simply don’t have enough room for one, you can try the next best thing.

Just make sure you get the height right, especially if your little one is a jumper.

9. Puppy-Proof Your Home

Your puppy can’t tell what’s dangerous and what’s not. Although confining him is a good place to start, you need to be sure your home is as safe as possible.

This will help him stay out of trouble, and minimizes the potential for disaster if he does happen to escape his crate while you’re away.

Need a few ideas about where to start?

  • Cover power outlets and use cord protectors
  • Hide harmful household supplies and medications
  • Watch out for poisonous houseplants
  • Pick up small items and little parts from the floors
  • Remove books and other objects from high shelves
  • Get a dog-proof trash can

10. Notice the Temperature

Do you live in an area of extremes, where it can get very hot or very cold?

Just as you want to be cool in the summer, your puppy needs to have relief from the heat as well. Tower and ceiling fans normally do a great job, and are generally safe and cheaper than turning on the air conditioner during hot days.

A dog cooling mat can also be used to cool your dog down.

When it’s too cold outside, leave your puppy extra blankets. While some people prefer heater fans, you must be present to supervise due to potential fire damage.

11. Keep the Light On

Fear of the dark isn’t only limited to children, many pets dislike total darkness as well. Be sure to take this fact into consideration, and avoid leaving your puppy uneasy and alone without any light source.

If you leave your house in the morning, it’s easy to forget to turn on the lights. But if you’re planning on returning home late, you may find your pup shaking and scared.

That said, a small desk lamp near the playpen or the pet gate should be more than enough.

12. Mask Outdoor Noises

Make sure to close the windows, and leave some sort of background noise to mask the sounds of honking cars, yelling neighbors, barking dogs, and scary thunders.

Whatever noise is frequent when you’re home with your puppy is most likely very soothing. For example, the hum of a fan, some type of white noise, and even certain types of music would surely be better than a completely quiet apartment.

You can also try the National Geographic channel — the wildlife and nature images along with the narrator’s calming voice might help your pup relax and fall asleep.

Alternatively, search for dog relaxation music on YouTube, or check out this four-album bundle designed specifically for scared and anxious dogs.

13. Use Your Old Clothes

Puppies find calm in the smell of their owners, this is because your scent is like a security blanket for them, and it makes them feel as though you’re nearby, even when you’re not there.

So whenever you can, take an old t-shirt and leave it where your pup can see it. You’ll only make it easier for him to stay home alone.

14. Don’t Over Spoil Him

We all love to pamper your dogs, but it’s not always the right thing to do. Trust me when I say that the more attention you give your puppy, the more he will depend on your presence, and the less confident he will be while you’re away.

Over spoiling can lead to an anxious dog that will most likely chew furniture, pee around the house, and bark all day.

15. Let Him Be Alone

I know it’s not easy, but try to ignore your smooshy little pup from time to time. The worst thing you can do is make him believe he needs your attention to be happy or to feel safe.

You need to understand that some independence is healthy, and that most accidents happen out of boredom or loneliness on your dog’s part.

So, avoid creating a situation where he’s overly dependent upon you. Instead, try to get him used to spend some time on his own, so he doesn’t panic and see it as a bad thing.

Whether you’re watching a movie, reading a book, or eating your dinner, simply give him the cold shoulder. In the meantime, he can relax quietly anywhere he wants in the house, or if you prefer, in his bed or crate.

The purpose of this exercise is to build confidence and teach your puppy to stay calm and relax, even when he’s not getting any attention from you.

However, don’t stretch it. When it comes to puppies, small steps are the best way to go.

16. Provide Plenty of Exercise

Everyone knows that a tired dog is a good dog, so make the effort to wear your pup out before you leave him alone for a few hours. You can take him out brisk walk or play fetch. Anything goes, as long as you do something that will exhaust him. Otherwise, he will find other ways to release his pent-up energy.

In addition, include some mental exercises, brain games, and dog puzzle toys in your puppy’s routine, as these require him to use not only his body, but his brain as well, which can be very tiring.

17. Come and Leave Quietly

You need to make sure that entering and leaving the house is done calmly. That means no petting, cuddling, hugging, or kissing.

Leave the house without interacting with your puppy at all, and wait until he settles down when you come back in. At first, he will be excited and try to gain your attention by jumping and barking at you. Don’t fall into this trap!

Giving in to his demands will only make things worse, and may even nurture separation anxiety.

18. Watch Him Remotely

Okay, I admit; I used to watch my dog all the time when he was younger. I hanged a webcam on his playpen and could see and hear him while I was at work. Honestly? It gave me the peace of mind I was looking for.

If I were you today, I’d look for an easy-to-setup camera that can be accessed from any mobile device, and make sure it has a wide-angle view, as well as night vision, just in case.

Some cameras even have additional features, such as motion tracking, noise detection, two-way audio, activity, and barking alerts, and even treat tossing if that’s something that you’re interested in.

19. Ask Other People for Help

Commit to having at least one local dog sitter and a dog walker on your phone contacts, and use it as a backup plan in case you’re running late. Plus, if you have someone in your family or a friend that can help you out as well, the better.

This will give your pup a chance to stretch out his legs, and get some fresh air, which can only have a positive effect on his behavior. It sure beats coming home and finding a big mess and a stressed-out pet.

How was your first time leaving your puppy home alone? Tell us in the comments.

10 thoughts on “Leaving a Puppy Alone at Home for the First Time”

  1. Hi there my name isMichael I’m getting a Belgian malinois puppy he’s 9 week old
    I work 5 days a week 8hr a day I go to work 5am to 2:30pm I have no idea how or where
    I leave my puppy and should feed him one and when I come back feed him again or
    I feed him in morning and when I go to work leave him food in he’s plaet
    It’s that ok if I leave him in the dog crate for 8 hr

    • Congrats on getting a new puppy!

      You should not crate a 9-week old puppy for more than 3-4 hours. Such small puppies have very poor bladder control so they need to go outside every few hours.

      If you do not have the option to walk your puppy often, you can hire a dog walker or use pee pads while you are at work.

      Either way, remember to confine your dog using a playpen or a pet gate to avoid potty accidents and keep him safe while you are away.

      As for meals, puppies should eat three to four times a day, so try feeding your puppy before you head out to work, then again at noon, and once more in the evening.

      You can also free-feed your puppy but it is better to keep a consistent schedule, especially during housetraining.

  2. My puppy is 4 months he was fine when we left him alone at first, now he goes mad in the crate biting the bars crying and getting in a bit if a state we have to take him everywhere which is very unpractible sometimes any advice please

    • Your puppy seems to be suffering from separation anxiety. In that case, I like to use a Kong to ease the dog’s boredom.

      Simply fill the toy with treats or peanut butter (you can also freeze it) and give it to your puppy when you need to leave.

      Another thing I highly recommend to reduce anxiety in dogs is to walk your puppy right before you go since dogs tend to be calmer after exercise.

      A crate is a great tool for controlling separation anxiety, but if you find it aggravates your puppy’s condition, I suggest using a playpen or a pet gate which are less confined.

  3. Hi we have a 9wk old black labrador girl. She sleeps well in her crate overnight for 7-8 hours with the door open, and she toilets on a puppy mat at back door, which i pick up during the day and we take her out regularly for her toilet breaks…which is going pretty well.
    We have had her for 5 days and i timed it so we would be off with her in the school holidays and she will be 12 wks by the time i go back to work. I will be gone 8-12 home for lunch and then 1-4. How should i start preparing her for this as at the moment she will only go in her crate to sleep at night. I have put treats in and she is happy to go in and out in the day but naps behind the sofa. Also she gets distressed if we all leave the room.
    Thank you for your advice.

    • Nice job!

      While treats are a good way to get your puppy into his crate, they will keep him there for long.

      That is why I recommend using a Kong stuffed with PB or canned dog food which will not only last for quite some time (especially when frozen) but also help to distract your puppy when you leave.

      Additionally, make sure the bottom of the crate is padded and comfortable.

  4. Very helpful advice in the video, thank you! We have a new Havanese puppy and need to start going out without him so will be using these ideas.

    Our last dog, a Tibetan Terrier, LOVED his Kong Biscuit Ball. I would let him see me preparing it about 15 minutes before we planned to leave. From that point forward, he’d follow me around and stare as if to say, “OK, you can leave. Just leave. Don’t worry about me. Just gimme the Biscuit Ball. Go on now. Go ahead. I’ll be fine. Go. Go.” Even though Tibetan Terriers often have some separation anxiety, he was 100% cool with being alone and I’m sure it was due to the Biscuit Ball!

  5. I have had a 9week old puppy for about two weeks. He sleeps in his crate without crying or having to pee throughout the night. I have had to leave him about three times now for ~two hours. I walk him at 7:45am and leave at 9am. He cries as soon as I leave and I can hear him as I walk towards my home.


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